If you could talk to your younger self again, what would you tell them? Not to trust a specific person or alter a decision that you made. For me, the best advice to give my younger self would be to be stronger, because life is only going to get harder from here on. People who knew me almost 15 years ago would think that I’m dead now, but little do they know. I had a lot of problems back then, had no self-confidence, didn’t love myself and so much more but now I have improved for the better. If I can become the best version of myself then so can you, I am here to help you with that.
Turning your life around can be easy if you truly believe in yourself, after all, you only have yourself in this world. So turn the pages of your life with us, and move on from every struggle and heartbreak. I changed my life for the better, and now it is your turn to do so.
All of it starts with a secret, the kind of secret which took me decades to learn. Although it took me a while to get everything straight, I will be sharing my findings with you today. Whatever your problems are, the solution will come to you easily, just have patience. Here is how you can move from every struggle that you are currently facing.
Draw A Line Mentally
Life is going to throw a lot of problems your way, you need to be mentally prepared for each and every situation. You might find yourself in the same knots, in the same rotting company, and in the same dead ends, what you can do in this kind of situation is draw a mental line. This line will help you mark your future decisions.
Everything that you faced till now was just a part of the problem and everything which comes after will be part of the solution. Take the whole thing as a learning experience, because if you don’t then it could lead to unnecessary hurdles.
You just drew a line mentally, but how can you use it efficiently? Use that mental page break to give yourself refined courage to be better and to heal. In order to be better than before you need to leave that guilt and shame in the past and emerge as someone new. You need to make sure that no matter what happens, you won’t let anything hold you back and will try to be better each day. The secret over here is to never stop trying, once you stop trying you are already dead.
Screwing up is totally fine, if you feel like crying then do so, all of this will make you feel better. Let none of these things break you down, they are only here to provide us with lessons, nothing else. You must develop a kind of attitude that itself becomes the solution to all of your problems. Break free from all of your past problems and emerge as a phoenix from the ashes of your past!
Learn From Others
There is one common mistake that many of us make when dealing with a problem or situation, we try to go through all of it on our own. Landing in a sticky place or even a cycle of self-sabotage is extremely concerning if you don’t do anything about it. In order to get out of this situation, you must be willing to bring others into the fray. When we talk about others, I refer to the people that you are close with. These could be your family and close friends. Humans are social beings and we have to interact with each other, in one way or the other. Make sure that the interaction is actually beneficial in some way, it should uplift your spirit and not bring you down.
It is an amazing approach to find people that have gone through the same trials as you have and since they know the hardships, they will be able to assist you better. Never let go of that hope, find aspiration and motivation in others even when you can’t find it in yourself.
When you start learning and depending on others, you notice the different patterns which made them successful. Some people plan the solutions while others actually live the solutions, always go for the latter. If people are truly free of their issues, they will be able to help you out truly.
Try Everything In Your Hands
How can you move on from a struggle until and unless you have tried everything in your hands? Sometimes we might feel that we have tried out so much and still nothing is working out for us, I know that situation as I have been there. I would say this one thing to you, giving up is easy, but continuing with the pain is hard but worth it.
Some people make a very common mistake here, they try the generic solutions provided to them. Now, what could be the generic options? Pills, counseling, books, potions, and other useless thing won’t get you anywhere. When I was using these items they were draining me on a daily basis, and I almost gave up. Now when I look back, I thank myself for not giving up.
In this kind of situation, what can I do? The only viable solution that I would offer you is to think outside the box. Try solutions that you never ever dreamed of, and who knows, they might actually make things better for you.
Let Go Of Your Past
In order to move on from every struggle and heartbreak, you must let go of the past, guilt, and resentment. No matter what, negative feelings are always going to be counter-productive. You may feel like justifying them but they are only going to drain you out in the long run, so you have to avoid them. Forgive the people that have hurt you in the past and start venturing towards the path of enlightenment.
I have learned something from my trials, it is easy to forgive others but very hard to forgive ourselves. We must forgive ourselves so that we can easily begin the next chapter. We did our best in that time, it was certainly the right thing to do but it didn’t work out and that wasn’t your fault. Forgive yourself and begin anew.
The most critical and crucial thing that you need to do is look at the future and look forward to the new upcoming chapter of your life. Talk to yourself like a gentle teacher, everyone makes mistakes, it is what makes us humans. A warm and encouraging tone will help you out very much.
Do What Actually Works
In order to get out of a struggle or sticky situation, you have to do what works right? Well, most people get busy doing the things that don’t get them anywhere. In stressful situations, people self-inflict pain onto themselves. For example, many people resort to alcohol or smoking to relieve the stress, which just kills them slowly.
Live in reality to make sensible and favorable choices for yourself. Don’t follow the path to anger and destroy what is good for you. Yes, actively and always engaging in battles and struggles is going to be very hard, but being stuck in pain and self-resentment will be even harder.
Picture your goals in your mind and make sensible steps towards them with each passing day. Let nothing stand in your way.
Uplifting Quotes To Help You Move On And Begin A New Chapter In Your Life
Words are powerful and have an amazing effect on us, here are some of the most motivating words to help you move on in life. Enjoy!
I think it happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. And so you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.
Nicholas Sparks
Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.
Steve Maraboli
You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.
Joel Osteen
Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.
Deborah Reber
You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles.
C. JoyBell C.
Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.
Steve Maraboli
Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?
Mary Manin Morrissey
If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.
Shannon L. Alder
Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be.
C. JoyBell C.
Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.
Criss Jami
It is important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We need to learn from our errors and move on.
Steve Maraboli
There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it.
Shannon L. Alder
Sooner or later we’ve all got to let go of our past.
Dan Brown
Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.
Mandy Hale
You can’t look back – you just have to put the past behind you, and find something better in your future.
Jodi Picoult
It was strange, really. A couple of months ago, I had thought I couldn’t live without him. Apparently, I could.
Gabrielle Zevin
I demolish my bridges behind me…then there is no choice but to move forward.
Fridtjof Nansen
To be bitter is to attribute intent and personality to the formless, infinite, unchanging and unchangeable void. We drift on a chartless, resistless sea. Let us sing when we can, and forget the rest..
H.P. Lovecraft
Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can’t build on it; it’s only good for wallowing in.
Katherine Mansfield
Life moves on and so should we.
Spencer Johnson
You don’t have to let that one thing be the thing that defines you.
Jojo Moyes
Love is forgiving, accepting, moving on, embracing, and all-encompassing. And if you’re not doing that for yourself, you cannot do that with anyone else.
Steve Maraboli
Your heart’s strength is measured by how hard it holds on. Your self-worth and faith are measured by finally letting go. However, your peace is measured by how long you don’t look back.
Shannon L. Alder
Watch: Let Go and Move On
Letting go and moving on can be tricky and hard but it doesn’t need to be. Watch this deeply motivational video by Jordan Peterson, it will help you out!
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